Are you a victim or a processor? Recently, I’ve been reading “Your Next Five Moves” by Patrick Bet-David. In the book, he spoke my truth. I’ve never heard someone describe it so well. Are you a victim or a processor?
A processor thinks ahead and strategies their next move. When something goes wrong, their first response is, “How can I learn from this to ensure it never happens again.” A star quarterback studies the game from the night before. This is one of the most important ideas to implement. The cheesy acronym is F.A.I.L First Attempt In Learning. When I engage with a potential client, I replay the conversations in my head later that night—the next day. I think about my body language and theirs. Did I ask the right questions? What did I do when they said this? What didn’t I do? All this to prepare me for the next game. I am a processor.
“My bad” is a popular term around me. A processor takes responsibly for their actions. “I messed this one up. “ “That’s my fault.” Taking ownership and course-correcting separates the processors from the victims.
I hate victims. When I encounter a “victim of life,” I generally steer clear. A victim seldom says I. They don’t take responsibility. Blame and escape are some of the most accessible strategies to take. Blame the manager or the clients. Blame the computer or software. They are too busy looking for outward reasons for their problems than to look inwardly.
“They” “You” “It” before communicating, try to take a second and think, am I blaming someone for this? How did I contribute to this? How do I improve to help the situation in the future? Patrick Bet-David said, “Kids say it broke. Mature adults say I broke it.”
I have a lot of improvement to make on this topic, personal life, and business. Nothing changes if nothing changes. It would be a lot easier to get back in bed and sleep. It’s a lot easier to distract yourself with the internet and household chores. The only way to see the light or to see the sculpture is to keep going. Keep chiseling away at the stone day by day. Right now, we have an uncertain future. Creating a strategy executing on that strategy and learning from the results is the one certain way to ensure our future.
If you’ve made it to the end of this, thank you. Your time is valuable, and I appreciate you spending a few minutes in my head. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject.
I’d also love to chat. (: —David@Purelyimagined.com
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